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The Amish Voice 5

We all want to feel

appreciated and wanted

.

We all want to feel

understood and cared for

.

We all want to feel

loved

.

Whether you're single, dating, or married, the thought of loving

and being loved is what life is all about.

We all love differently; therefore, the way we want to be loved

is different. It doesn't necessarily fit into the "one-size-fits-all"

box.

Dr. Gary Chapman has spent decades counseling couples and

helping strengthen marriage relationships. He realized that

every person has his or own “love language,” or way in which

one expresses and interprets love. Dr. Chapman also noticed

that almost everyone is attracted to someone who speaks a

different love language than his own. He believes that it is

important to know and understand your own love language, and

also the love language of your spouse. As Dr. Chapman says,

“True love is not a myth, but it takes work. Making sure that the

one you love feels loved requires commitment, understanding,

and effective communication.”

In his pamphlet,

Gateway to the 5 Love Languages

, Dr.

Chapman summarizes the five love languages:

Words of Affirmation

—Actions don’t always speak louder

than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited

compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love

you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends

your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not

easily forgotten.

Quality Time

—In the common language of Quality Time,

nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being

there for this type of person is

critical, but really being

there—with the noise off,

fork and knife down, and all

chores

and

tasks

on

standby—makes

your

significant other feel truly

special

and

loved.

Distractions, postponed dates,

or the failure to listen can be

especially hurtful.

Receiving

Gifts

—Don’t

mistake this love language for

materialism; the receiver of

gifts thrives on the love,

thoughtfulness, and effort

behind the gift. If you speak

this language, the perfect gift

or gesture shows that you are

known, you are cared for, and

you are prized above

whatever was sacrificed to

bring the gift to you. A

missed birthday, anniversary,

or a hasty, thoughtless gift

would be disastrous—so

would the absence of

everyday gestures.

Acts of Service

Can sweeping the

floors really be

The 5 Love Languages