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The Amish Voice 8

I am writing letter as a plea to fathers in

this generation. My heart has been deeply

hurt by the things I see happening in

today's generation, even in churches and

religious circles.

We live in a fatherless generation. Our

children have absentee fathers (whose

own fathers were too busy for them) who

somehow feel that fatherhood consists of

special privileges, sharing seed, and

providing an income (if their families are

fortunate). When they come home from

work, they figure that their day's work is

accomplished, and so they put up their

feet and relax while the wife and mom,

who has been working hard all day,

giving emotionally, spiritually, and

physically to the children and is ready to

relax as well, dishes up supper and cleans

it all up, while trying to take care of the

children alone.

Many times she is alone in trying to raise

the children, and she is the one who

carries the vision, feeling deeply

burdened with the many unmet needs

of her children's hearts and the lack

of spiritual leadership in the home.

She carries many burdens that are

not hers to carry.

Often, she

lives

in

bitterness

and

unspoken

hurt. These

feelings

which are

buried

alive

begin to take their toll

on her body and she

lacks energy and joy and

peace.

She

feels

overwhelmed and doesn't

know which way to turn.

She tries to communicate

the children's needs, as well

as her own, but she is weary and worn,

and it comes out in a whiny tone, which

further serves to shut down her husband's

emotions. She feels trapped, because a

good wife, she has been told, is not

supposed to discuss her husband's flaws.

When she does share, she often feels

unheard and then guilty because she

spoke up.

Many, many women are in this situation,

with large families, trying to raise their

children, feeling no hope for the future

and little fulfillment in life, because they

married for love, for companionship, for

a husband to love and care for, and in

turn, she believed that she would be

loved and protected.

When she feels unprotected, her respect

falls. When her respect falls, his love for

her wanes. This vicious cycle drains the

marriage and brings hurt, pain, and

bitterness. It causes the parents to be

focused inward on their own pain, unable

to focus on their children's needs and

pain, allowing negative habits to

form. This causes problems and

strongholds to form in the

household, creating more work

and more frustration and

weariness

for

the

parents.

Soon, all

the hurt and

pain

is

causing mom

and dad to

speak harshly

to their children. Love

is no longer in the home.

We have long forgotten

to pray and read the

Bible with our children.

We don't know where to

begin fixing it. The enemy

sighs in satisfaction. His

mission to steal, kill, and

destroy is well on its way to completion.

But it does not need to end this way. If

we can wake up, if we can go back to the

basics, if we can go back to God and His

Word, He can turn it around. There is

nothing too hard for God. He began a

good work in us and He is faithful to

complete it. He is the author and the

finisher of our faith. He is capable of

healing us completely—body, soul, and

spirit. He already paid the price for it, and

we can receive it and believe it. He is a

good, good Father.

If a man and his wife can turn to God in

repentance with all their hearts, and

submit their wills to His, following His

leading and direction in obedience, then

He will make their path strait. He will

shine His light on their journey and show

them the way. They can once again find

joy, beauty, and meaning in their lives

and set their children up for success

instead of destruction. He is such a

faithful God and such a good Father. He

is not willing that any should perish, but

that all should come to repentance and

experience the great love He has for

them.

He is waiting for fathers to wake up and

find deep down inside themselves the

men He created to love and lead their

wives and children in righteousness. He

created YOU, whoever you are, wherever

you are, for a divine purpose. He wants

you to start with the family He gave you.

Your work is not as important as your

family. Money is not as important as

your family. Your children and your wife

need you. If you can wake up and love

them and spend time with them and

lovingly lead them, they will love you

back a hundred times over. You will be

their hero and you will be of all men

most blessed.

With love,

Your Sister in Christ

A Letter to Fathers

By Norma Miller

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